The Sunday Currently

Watching some HIMYM reruns right now... in the bedroom, because Garrett is watching soccer in the living room on the big TV.

Reading through tons and tons of blogs. I have a few days to catch up on... has anything exciting happened lately?!

Smelling the Pumpkin Spice Wallflower I got from Bath and Body Works... I got several last season when they were on clearance, and I just got it out this week. This thing is LEGIT, you guys. The scent is so strong, but not overwhelming. I had always just been a Glade person, but I think this one might be worth the cost in the future, especially if I can scoop them up on clearance or when they're having a 3/$20 promotion. 

Looking at all the dirty clothes in the hamper right now. Yikes. I need a maid. 

Excited that this weekend has actually been a slow one. I mean, we were still busy, but for once, I don't feel like it's TOTALLY sped by. Very thankful for that.

Drinking coffee out of one of my favorite mugs ever. I'm not a huge Disney person, but I've always really loved this mug that I got at Disney World in 2009. Also, we've been trying all the different pumpkin coffee creamers this weekend, so my coffee is full of pumpkin-y goodness. 

Thinking about a blog post for tomorrow... weekend recap? regular post? We DID things this weekend, so I'll probably go recap. Maybe I'll even link up? This has been the only linkup I've done consistently in a while, so I should probably find some new ones.

Excited about the new sheets we got yesterday!!! They're so soft and wonderful and fancy, and they look AWESOME with the duvet cover. I had gotten super sick of the red... it was way too bold and obnoxious for the bedroom. I've always pictured a soft, nice, romantic vibe for the bedroom since the living room is so bold and colorful, and we're well on our way!! so exciting.

Anticipating the week, as usual. I'd like to get everything cleaned up in the apartment before the day's over, and get at least two blog posts typed out.

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Gotta get down on Friday.....??? Yes? No? No.

So, uh, this whole government shutdown thing is happening. It's REALLY happening. I love reading all of your thoughts about it, even if I disagree. If you need a refresher on how to disagree with someone, feel free to read my post about not being That Guy. (Hint: calling someone ignorant in the comments section is not the way to do it. I saw that at least three times this week and that is NOT OKAY, okay?)

I got to see Kelsey on Tuesday, so that was fun! She brought us our couch cover, and we got lunch and did a little shopping. Last night, we went to get one of my favorite fall beers at a bar in Greensboro and we ran into one of my good friends from college! What a good week for friends.

In case you missed it on the blog this week, we talked about going to bed angry, decorating our house, and I showed you our coffee table. Really riveting stuff, you know.

Also, do you like money and ad space? Go win $100 to celebrate Jenn's birthday today, and be on the lookout for Katie's ad space giveaway that starts on Monday! 

It's from 2011, but I thought this article about how your american girl doll shaped the rest of your life was hilarious(ly accurate.) So is this infographic on what your favorite beer says about you. In case you're planning on quitting your job soon, here's one way you could quit. Amazing. And for your weekly millennial article, Elizabeth Wurtzel got all ranty last week about how awful we are. Liz, I don't think we're the awful ones here. Ya dig?

So, a few weeks ago I talked about how I was willing to let the stupid, stupid things that Miley was doing slide because she's young and dumb and that's kind of how things go. Well, I'm over it. Not even a week ago, she talked about she pulled inspiration from Sinead O'Conner for her wrecking ball video. Well, this week, Sinead O'Conner wrote a letter to Miley, warning her against everything that she's doing right now. Naturally, Miley responded in the most childish, arrogant, unacceptable way ever. Yo, Miley: if you want to be seen as a "bad bitch" instead of just.. a bitch, maybe you should stop. Just stop everything. Because you are the worst.

If you're like me, you probably stopped watching Glee after the second season. I used to LOVE it, and it makes me sad that I don't anymore. I'll definitely be watching next week for Cory Monteith's tribute, though. Watch the preview for next week and read Ryan Murphy's thoughts about it here.

Just in case you need the government shutdown explained to you, there are two very easy to understand (and hilarious) explanations here and here. You're welcome.

I bought Essie Cashmere Bathrobe yesterday and I'm so excited to paint my nails this afternoon! We have game night tonight with Garrett's family and a birthday party tomorrow night with my family. I finally found a pumpkin spice coffee creamer that I love. We found some cute new vases at Marshall's the other night for less than ten bucks. It's Friiiiiiiday!

Have a good weekend!

On going to sleep angry.

When Garrett and I moved in together, I got a LOT of unsolicited advice.

And I'll tell you, the only thing I hate more than unsolicited advice is DUMB unsolicited advice.

The advice I got most? Never go to bed angry.

Now, Garrett and I have lived together less than two months, so maybe I'll change my mind later, but I can already tell you that I think that rule is Dumb with a capital D. Why? Let's talk about it.

The main argument for resolving conflict before you go to sleep is that if you don't, you won't resolve the issue EVER, and resentment will build up, and you'll start hating each other, and blah blah blah. But I'll tell you something: I'm going to resent you way more if you keep me up till 3am trying to rehash some dumb fight that neither one of us can remember the origin of now. Mama's gotta sleep, yo. And tired people + fighting is only going to lead to more crankiness + more fighting. Neither of you can put together a coherent sentence, and you're going to get stuck in a never-ending circle of empty fighting.

You know that your outlook is going to totally change after a full night's sleep. Garrett and I have had fights before, gone to bed, and woken up and everything was fine. Things were a lot easier to handle after a lot of sleep (and a lot of coffee) than they were at midnight after a long day and a long argument. The clarity you have after you've stepped away for a minute and REALLY thought about it is important when you're trying to resolve something.

And really, sometimes you just need a break from each other. I don't mean a break where you spend a ton of time apart, I just mean: relationships are hard, right? You spend A LOT of time with one person. Sometimes, fights bubble to the surface for no good reason. Sometimes, you just need to not talk for an hour or two. Why not make it eight hours and just go to sleep?

There are always going to be exceptions to the rule. And this method might not work for everyone. But I feel like we get a lot of pressure (especially as women) to resolve everything as soon as it happens, and I think it puts a lot of unnecessary stress on a relationship.

What do you think? How do you deal with pre-bedtime fights?